War grandchildren and war great-grandchildren unconsciously carry unresolved emotional injuries of their ancestors.
If violations of the system law, such as exclusion, suffering, grief, fear and anger, have occurred in the ancestors, for example through war experiences or the early death of a parent, these violations can be reflected in the changed behaviour and personality of the ancestors, who in turn have influenced or are influencing the descendants (war grandchildren, war grandchildren).
Traumas and injured feelings can also be passed on emotionally to children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
LITERATURE ABOUT WAR GRANDCHILDREN
The books about war children / war grandchildren refer to the Second World War and show their connections.
They try to offer approaches to solutions in addition to the knowledge that such “inherited” effects exist. However, in many cases these do not go far enough.
WAR CHILDREN, WAR GRANDCHILDREN, WAR GREAT-GRANDCHILDREN AND THE SYSTEM LAWS
Our experience with the topic is that not only the Second World War, but also the First or previous wars have the same effects. Also, regardless of wars, systemic law violations and traumatic experiences of the ancestors can be passed on in the same way.
If, for example, an ancestor has experienced fear of starvation and has not worked off this fear, it can be unconsciously taken over by a descendant. It is not even necessary for the war grandchild or war grandchild to have experienced this fear in the ancestor. No imprinting or learning has to take place.
This existential fear can be expressed in the fact that the descendant is overweight (eat in stock, because there might be a famine again), or has an addiction or little to self-confidence.
The first step is to bring the feelings and burdens out of the fog and gain understanding.
The second step is then to dissolve the causes or the systemic law violations of the ancestors.
For this purpose we have developed the Empowering and Genea method. With the Genea-Method these injuries of the ancestors can be dissolved internally by the client, so that the personality can develop freely again.
For me, it was and is always about achieving an effect, i.e. finding and working on the causes, so that the issues dissolve. I have got to know and learned methods and approaches such as NLP, Timeline, TA, TZI, EMDR, Wingwave, Buddhism, Zen, Kinesiology, Constellations, Yoga, Psychodrama, Gestalt Therapy, Systemics (Self-Organisation and Chaos Theory) and Quantum Physics and extracted the most effective things for me.
Thus I have developed the Genea and Empowering Methods through constant application and trial and error in coaching clients and myself.
In my personal case, I have applied all the methods I have learned to my fear of being abandoned.
This fear was not imprinted but was unconsciously with me, because an ancestor had died young and her child had experienced this fear in real life and had not resolved this violation of the system law. With the inner constellation I could finally dissolve this fear in 2002. From this the Genea-Method was developed.
GENEA- AND EMPOWERING METHOD TO DISSOLVE IMPRINTS ON THE ANCESTORS OF WAR GRANDCHILDREN AND WAR GREAT-GRANDCHILDREN
Genea method means: dissolving systemic law violations of the ancestors, so that the forces and life energies can flow fully and completely again.
Empowering method means: Empowering and strengthening one’s own life history and living in the here and now with the powers of the ancestors as well as in systemic mediation to dissolve further systemic law violations.
The Genea Method resolves issues with previous generations and the Empowering Method empowers, strengthens and shapes one’s own experienced life anew.
Through the empowerment of the ancestors, many self-generated or self-experienced systemic law violations in private and professional life can be resolved.
Likewise, new abilities, behaviours, convictions and the meaning of life or vision are made accessible or learned anew.
In the above example, this leads to the fact that the descendant no longer feels fear of existence and the problem of being overweight dissolves.
MY BOOK »Persönlichkeitsentwicklung mit System« AND THE WAR GRANDCHILDREN
In the course of my book, the effects of the two world wars on the psyche and health of today’s generation and their possible solutions are shown.
EXAMPLE 1: FEAR OF ABANDONMENT – INABILITY TO BOND OR RELATE
A client could not properly engage in relationships. If it got serious with a partner, she had to leave.
She felt like she was being controlled by someone else. She felt bad, scared. Even though the relationship was fine until then, she had to end it.
After that she looked for partners who were already married or with whom she had a platonic relationship. This protected her from a too close relationship.
The reason for her unconsciously controlled behaviour was that she was afraid of being left. However, she had not had such a formative experience in her life from which she could have derived the fear.
It then became apparent that the client had unconsciously taken over this fear of abandonment from her father and grandfather. They had made the fear real, because the client’s grandmother died suddenly when the grandfather was about 40 years old and her father 10 years old. Neither of them had worked through this fear and so it was passed on to the client as a burden.
Fear of abandonment or inability to relate is shown in the statement: “I would rather leave you preventively than be abandoned.
In the opposite case, it can lead to strong homesickness, e.g. to keep an eye on the parents all the time, because then it cannot be left.
With the Genea and Empowering Method the client has resolved the systemic law violations such as fear, grief and also anger in her grandfather and father in an inner constellation (without her father or grandfather being present in the coaching).
Then her grandfather and her father could take the fear away from her (inwardly).
This led to a liberated feeling in the client and she now lives happily in a solid partnership with her own children.
EXAMPLE 2: NO SUCCESS
One client had successfully built up a business three times in the last ten years and lost it each time due to mistakes on his part.
He now wanted clarity about what might be behind it.
After we had addressed the environmental issues:
“What’s the good thing about him not being successful?”
and
“What negative effects can a successful business have?”
I asked him if he felt that he was allowed to be successful.
He had strong ancestor couples, i.e. he could see his parents and grandparents inwardly as strong couples standing close together.
I asked him if his grandparents and parents could say to him
“You can be successful!”
He felt this inside and said yes. So he had the permission of his ancestors.
Now the second step is much more important, whether he can also accept the permission.
I asked him whether he could accept this permission and inwardly thank the couples and say
“Thank you, I can be successful.”
With his parents and the maternal grandparents it felt coherent, with the paternal grandparents it felt not coherent. With him it turned up that his grandparents had a successful coal business, which was bombed in the war and their existence was therefore destroyed. He then realized that out of loyalty he had unconsciously lived the same fate: “success = losing everything”:
On the one hand, so that his grandparents would feel better again if he took on their suffering; on the other hand, so that the frozen feelings such as anger, suffering, grief and fear would be worked off, he lived the dynamic as a signal.
With the Genea method we then resolved these experienced systemic law violations. Afterwards he could say coherently to his grandparents:
“Out of love for you or in honour of you I may succeed – now more than ever.”
So this dynamic of failure was dissolved and he then built up his fourth business, which has been successful ever since.
SIGNALS AS WAR GRANDCHILDREN AND WAR GREAT-GRANDCHILDREN
In addition to the above examples, I have found another set of signals (thoughts, feelings, symptoms, dreams and events) in clients where the cause is ancestral.
FROZEN ENERGY OR POWER
If the parents, grandparents and great-grandparents have experienced suffering in war and this has not been resolved, then energy / power is frozen.
Every form of fear, grief, suffering, anger and rage, which is not resolved properly, limits the energy and shows itself in various signals.
NOT TO GET ANGRY
We usually get our power from our ancestors. They are unconscious role models who consciously and unconsciously pass on their experiences and imprints to their descendants.
With war grandchildren and wartime grandchildren, System Empowering Coaching is about uncovering the causative persons through an inner work For some people anger is a shadow, i.e. they must not get angry.
In an inner constellation work, the signal as war grandchild and wartime great-grandson can lead back to the ancestors who have already received this imprint through war experiences.
THROUGH THIS MAN PEOPLE HAVE COME TO HARM IN WAR
If people have been killed in war by the man (e.g. grandfather of the warrior’s grandson) or if he has not helped, etc., a dynamic can develop from this.
Examples can be having to hide, having a guilty conscience, not being able to learn a language, feeling ashamed or guilty or dissociating from one’s feelings.
We often experience such people then weakened, although they were strong balanced personalities before the war.
ANGER AT SON PREVENTS POWER FLOW
Anger at the son can reduce the flow of power. One reason may be that the eldest son has died in a war, for example.
Anger at the death of the eldest and anger at war is diverted to the younger son. (Had the younger son died, then the older son would still be alive – reflects the fourth system law: sooner before later).
BALANCE OUT THE SHIFT OF FORCES
If one partner dies or is generally too weak, for example, it is possible that the other partner takes over this part and appears to be hard on the outside (e.g. the “wrecked women”, who were often balanced and powerful, but survival was more important than warmth and love and therefore appeared too hard on the outside).
This “working too hard” can have an effect up to the war grandchild and war great-grandchild and show itself there as a signal.
PERMISSION RECEIVED OR ACCEPTED (YOU MAY… THANKS, I MAY…)
Out of love or honour or loyalty to the parents or grandparents, it often happens that a child does not give itself permission to be successful, happy, etc.
If, for example, the mother had to suffer in marriage or if the grandparents lost everything in the war, the child unconsciously thinks that the same must happen to me – through this I show my love for them.
FOLLOW-UP DYNAMICS INTO DEATH FOR THE WAR GRANDCHILDREN AND WAR GREAT-GRANDCHILDREN
In the follow-up dynamic to death the 4th system law “Earlier before later has priority” is effective.
If an ancestor dies, a younger part (e.g. father dies and the first child reacts to it) can develop from loyalty to an unconscious feeling “Actually I should have died”.
The effects that we have experienced and resolved may be addiction, depression, attempted suicide, accident or illness.
FEARS AND RESTRICTIVE FEELINGS
If an ancestor of the war grandchild / war grandchild has experienced something terrible in war, e.g. if his life was at stake (after a bomb hit the house collapsed and down in the cellar he was buried, but was able to free himself), it can lead to fear of death. Such unprocessed feelings can also be passed on to children or grandchildren. They occur from time to time, for no apparent objective reason, which is why they cannot be consciously explained. The fear of death can manifest itself in the fact that the person cannot sleep in a tent, is afraid of flying or riding an elevator. In these cases, the person is concerned with narrow spaces and cannot do anything himself in the plane or elevator (helpless).
CURSES AND IMPRECATIONS
Curses and imprecations look like dynamics in terms of their effect.
But the cause of curses and imprecations is different.
Curses and imprecations only differ in that a curse has more energy and thus has a stronger negative effect.
In the following, curses and imprecations will only be referred to as curses, because the causes and the paths of dissolution are the same.
Curses are usually pronounced when something happens to a person or a couple where much suffering and anger is generated. However, this anger could not be dissolved at that time, they feel powerless.
A curse is then pronounced as a valve, which can have an effect on all generations of the cursed person but also on the person who pronounces the curse. A curse works both ways, i.e. together into the abyss.
VOW AND PLEDGE
In order to get out of an emergency situation or to achieve a very important goal, people promise or vow to themselves, another person or institution, to do or refrain from doing something.
For example, during the First World War, there was a sect that visited the trenches.
This sect promised people who were in mortal fear that they would never have sex with a woman (including a wife) again if they survived the war.
The father of a client had made this promise and it caused much suffering and anger on his part and on the part of his wife, because he could not fulfill this promise and had to reluctantly keep it.
Through our developed approach called SystemEmpowering we were able to resolve all the above and many other issues with the war grandchildren / war grandchildren, so that they have become free of it. Further topics and the documented procedure for dissolving I have written down in my book “Persönlichkeitsentwicklung mit System”.
EFFECTIVENESS WITH WAR GRANDCHILDREN / GREAT-GRANDCHILDREN
In almost 100% of the cases we were able to resolve the traumas of the ancestors with war grandchildren and war grandchildren and ensure that the signals (fear, grief, suffering, …) stopped in the present.
Thus, war grandchildren and war grandchildren receive an automatically emerging inner strong image of their ancestors, which leads to power, basic trust and clarity in their own lives.
WHY DOES THE DISSOLVING OF INJURIES WORK FOR THE ANCESTORS OF WAR GRANDCHILDREN / GREAT-GRANDCHILDREN
We cannot explain this exactly ourselves and have also stopped trying. We only know that apparently all experienced systemic law violations from the lives of our ancestors and our own are somehow stored in us and have an effect on us today.
If we change the cause by working off the ancestor’s violations inwardly, a new inner image is created, which in turn strengthens us in the present. We could put up theories as to why this is so, but others, such as epigenetics, will deal with it. Furthermore, we will spend our energy to accompany war grandchildren and war grandchildren in working through their issues.
HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO WORK THROUGH THE TRAUMAS OF THE ANCESTORS?
It depends on how many issues are with the ancestors and how many emotional wounds the war grandchild / war grandchild has experienced in his own life. On average we have three to six sessions of 3 hours each.
IN SUMMERY, HOW THE SUFFERING OF WAR GRANDCHILDREN / GREAT-GRANDCHILDREN CAN BE RESOLVED
- War children, war grandchildren and war great-grandchildren are descendants, whose ancestors went through traumatic experiences in war
- The symptoms can be varied, but it is characteristic that the cause cannot be found in one’s own life
- We have found out how the Genea- and Empowering Method can help to resolve these issues
- The resolution takes place in a System Empowering Coaching, which takes an average of three to six sessions of 3 hours each
- Why it works, we cannot say, we only observe the always repeating positive effect